“A just weight and balance are the LORD’S: and all the weights of the bag are his work.” Proverbs 16:11
I honestly have never noticed this verse in any of my previous Bible readings. This is odd for me since I have been in the habit of reading Proverbs almost daily for a long time. Isn’t God’s word amazing???? It really is new every morning just for us.
One thing I am learning about the Lord is that he loves order, moderation and a good balance in almost all things. God does not desire for us to over burden ourselves with the weight of life. If we are feeling overburdened with life, it is good to step back and examine if there is something in our life that God does not desire to be there.
Are you feeling over burdened and heavy laden??? If so, why? Jesus tells us that when we feel this way we should go to Him and He will give us rest. Let me tell you something! He really does! Why is that? Well it’s because God takes our load! He said that all these weights in our life belong to Him. We were never meant to carry them all on our own.
So friend, if your feeling overburdened in life, do these 2 things. First consider the load, is it right and balanced, or have you overburdened yourself with unnecessary things? If you are sure your on God’s path, then simply turn those weights back to Him. Run to Him! He promises to carry the load and give you much needed rest.
“And ye fathers, (and mothers I believe) provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4
I was reading my daily proverb this morning, and right off the bat, the first verse caught my attention. It reads:
“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” Proverbs 15:1
Immediately my mind went to the verse in Ephesians chapter 6. We as parents are told not to provoke our children to wrath. This verse is telling us how to turn away wrath. We can avoid provoking our children to wrath by using soft words with them.
“What??? Soft words??? My children don’t listen to me when I speak softly to them! I always find myself getting louder and sterner and just plain madder when they continuously ignore me!” You may be thinking. Dear mother, don’t you think that they are getting angry right back at you when you get angry with them??? I think we all need another method of getting those kiddos attention don’t you agree?
I’m so with you, I can so relate! When it comes to trying to get my kids to do almost anything I feel like it’s like trying to “nail jello to a tree.” They just don’t cooperate!
I’m reading a very informative and helpful book called, “The Strong Willed Child.” By Dr. James Dobson. Although I do not agree with all of his methods of discipline, I do agree with this one foundational truth. Discipline needs to be immediate if it is going to be affective. Many of us parents, mom’s especially, tend to give our kiddos way to many warnings which only leads us to anger and frustration towards them when they continually disobey. This sort of method of discipline only breeds for anger and frustration on both parties, and doesn’t help with the child/parent relationship in the long run.
So how else are we to handle these types of situations you ask? Well here are some ideas:
1. Make sure to stop and get your little ones attention before giving them instructions. Some kiddos are harder than others, especially very young and hyper boys, I ask my 3 year old this “Josiah, where are mommy’s eyes?” When he looks and points at them, then I say, “good, now look at them while mommy talks to you.” Then when I know I have his attention I give the instruction.
2. I also learned that it helps to give the consequence for disobeying at the same time as I give the instruction.
3. This one is the hard part. DO NOT EXTEND MERCY!!! If the child doesn’t follow through with the instruction, then give them the consequence immediately. Do not give them a warning, because that only teaches them that the line is drawn after the warning, not when they disobey.
4. If you are still having problems, it’s good to consider the instruction. Is this task something the child is fully capable to do without my help? Sometimes we need to help them along in creative ways so that they can learn and grow. Here is an example:
My children are all very young, under the age of 4. They have ALOT of toys. We really strive to keep somewhat order to our house on a regular basis, so because of that we have the kids clean up toys everyday before naptime and bedtime. I like to be able to say, “ok now is time to clean up”, and not have to chase them around for 2 hours trying to get them to do it… so I got creative and came up with a solution. I divided all their toys by types. (Ex. Cars and trains, blocks, doll stuff, potato head, dress up, baby stuff, tools etc.) I put all the small toys in little clear bins and place them up high in the closet. My kids have to ask for a bin in order to play with it, and can’t have more then 2 out at a time. This helps to make the clean up task a little easier for them.
I hope these tips help. I know it is a struggle and that it is easy to get in the rut of yelling at our kids and spouting off instructions like an angry drill sargent, but mom, when we do that we are not really nurturing them, we are angering them.
So this morning I was reading Proverbs chapter 6. I am in the habit of reading a proverb that coincides with the day of the month along with my other reading. I asked God to show me something in this passage, and when I got to verse 30-31 I was halted to a stop… these 2 verses seemed so out of place at first.
Most of the passage is discussing the sin of adultery, and then suddenly the author switches gears and begins discussing the sin of theft… then after those two verses are finished he finishes out the chapter discussing adultery again…
This perked my interest to look deeper as to why these verse were put where they were. It was so interesting to me that I felt I had to share it with someone, so yall are the ones I chose.
After looking deeper, I realized that the author is making a comparison, not just randomly going off topic. He is saying that with other sins like the sin of theft, a man can be restored by simply paying back that which was stolen and asking forgiveness, but with adultery, it is very hard, if not impossible to really be restored. The sin of adultery “destroys a mans (or womans) soul. It makes this person untrustworthy. His character becomes forever marred, and his reputation is destroyed.
Wow! This was very good to learn. Adultery is a very deceptive sin, and it is so easy to get caught up in it. Beware though, it is a way Satan tries to ruin your life.
So how does a person get caught up in such a tragic sin??? It’s pretty simple, and very sneaky… it starts with dissatisfaction. A person begins to look at others lives and feels dissatisfied with their own.
What sort of things can provoke this dissatisfaction? Perhaps watching movies that glamorise other relationships. Maybe it is a love story? A romantic novel you read? Sometimes it can be as simple as comparing your husband or wife to another man or woman to whom you admire or respect.
How can we gaurd our hearts from this evil sin that Satan uses to destroy our soul?
1. Avoid movies that cause you to feel dissatisfied in any way.
2. Toss out those romance novels ladies.
3. Turn your head… (when you are suddenly drawn to a member of the opposite sex, it helps to physically look away)
4. Set the standard that you will not text or call members of the opposite sex. Infact, delete their numbers from your phone so you are not even tempted, if you need something from that person, get in the habit of having your husband or wife contact them for you. (This includes Facebook and other ways of communication if that’s an issue)
5. Avoid being alone with a member of the opposite sex. (Sometimes I feel silly about this when it comes to my friends husbands, but it’s not that I don’t trust them, I just want to stay blameless, and avoiding these situations altogether really helps)
6. Stay in open communication with your spouse. ( I cannot vouch for this enough, having a close knit relationship really guards from distrust. If your spouse is constantly calling you and asking alot of questions, don’t get offended or feel like they don’t trust you, it’s just that they need to ease their hearts because they love you. Embrace their love.)
7. Fall in love with your spouse all over again. ( when you find yourself tempted to look at others, use that as an indication to draw even closer to your spouse!!! Run to them when you feel distance!